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Transforming Losses

Psychotherapeutic work with grief, separation, loss and the healing power of mourning

Seminar series, Monday evenings, 19.30-21.30

Monday 5 October - 7 December 2015

Monday 5 October 2015
Kate White
Grief, separation and loss and the healing power of mourning
In this presentation, Kate White will give an overview of the centrality of separation and loss, the vital importance of mourning and Bowlby's contribution to our understanding of what facilitates and what impedes this experience in therapeutic relationships. She will focus on how these impact on the body, on our sense of belonging and the ways in which our attachment patterns are embodied in the struggle to protect us against attachment, loss and disappointment, past and present and future. She will explore therapeutic approaches which enable both client and therapist to understand and engage in the painful process of mourning loss. The talk will be concluded with a discussion of how mourning needs to emerge into the context of the wider community with consideration of ways to reconnect. Mourning is both personal and political.

Monday 12 October 2015
Linda Cundy
Insecure Attachment: Perpetual Mourning or the Absence of Grief
All therapy concerns loss and grief. Any significant loss changes our personal landscape, demanding we adapt to a different, often impoverished new reality. Through grieving for what has gone - or what we have needed but never had - we can eventually grow to accommodate the absences. But some people resist mourning while others lose themselves in perpetual grief without resolution. Insecure attachment is at the root of the failure to mourn or to end mourning, with implications for the therapeutic process.

Monday 19 October 2015
Dr Judit Szekacs-Weisz
Borrowed Identities
The term "borrowed identities" describes a transitory state of being - quite often- on the verge of life and death. The function of this temporary identity is to hide and protect - to give the self a disguise; a new shape and form which might offer a chance to escape. This new identity is suspended between the me and the not-me; it functions like a second skin. At the same time it is alien. It demands complete adaptation and concentration: the slightest mistake or confusion can cost your life. How can a child do this ?! The testimony of the Hungarian Hidden Children, whose childhood has been shattered with brutal force gives evidence that this is exactly what they had to do: and they did it. In my presentation am going to introduce Remember us! - a collection of memories and lives of hidden children who survived the Holocaust in Hungary and also hope to do a first screening of images from the new documentary film (made in 2015) based on their stories. Their inspiring, shocking and moving recollections enable different generations to listen and to take possession of their own experience.

Monday 16 November 2015
Dr Elaine Arnold
Separation and Loss: the impact on the emotional health of children of African-Caribbean origin, and the importance of mourning
Bowlby expressed his belief that the cause of unhappiness, psychiatric illnesses and delinquency could be attributed to loss of a loved one. He thought that often in clinical work this element is missed. Many children who experience problems of an emotional nature present their difficulties at school. Others withdraw from their peers and teachers and seldom communicate with them. Among both groups there are a disproportionate number of the children of African-Caribbean background. We will consider what this teaches us about their needs specifically and, in general, how therapeutically supported mourning can protect adults and children from further emotional difficulties or mental ill health.

Monday 23 November 2015
Julia Samuel
When a Child Dies
When a child dies, whether it is a stillbirth or a teenager, it rips up the rule book of life. We aren't meant to bury our children. The parents' loss is unbearable, and their trust in all they believed in is shattered. This presentation will give an overview of Julia Samuel's theoretical base, through case studies and how she works with these clients. It will include sudden and expected death, working with couples, the impact on the therapist and how to support oneself. She will explore the components that lead to her clients rebuilding their lives.

Monday 30 November 2015
Professor Jeremy Holmes
Better to have loved and lost...
Loss is the obverse of attachment: Bowlby devoted two volumes of his trilogy to separation and loss and their consequences for mental health. In this talk Jeremy Holmes will explore the ramifications of loss in clinical settings, especially the role of 'latent loss' and its relationship to depression and low self-esteem. He will conclude with some meditations on the role of loss in the life-cycle of a therapist, and whether loss can be reframed in terms of the existential themes of transience and flux.

Monday 7 December 2015
Dr Christopher Clulow
Loss, anxiety and change through separation and divorce
Darwin persuaded us that without adaptation species become extinct. Freud proposed that mental illness was a consequence of failed mourning. Both were naturalists. They speculated not about life after death, but about life with death, death as a part of life, and life as a result of death. The work of Darwin and Freud profoundly influenced the work of two British psycho-analysts: John Bowlby and Melanie Klein. Together they have illuminated the nature of anxiety that attends the prospect or actuality of loss, and so our understanding of behaviour that can accompany change. This talk will apply some of their ideas to understanding psychological processes affecting couples and families through separation and divorce and consider practice implications arising from them for therapists and others working in the family justice system.


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All 7 seminars:
Self-funded: £220
Organisationally funded: £300
Single evenings: £40
CPD Hours

Certificates of attendance for 16 hours will be provided at the event

5th Floor Lecture Theatre
Tavistock Centre
120 Belsize Lane

Monday 5 October 2015
Monday 12 October 2015
Monday 19 October 2015
Monday 16 November 2015
Monday 23 November 2015
Monday 30 November 2015
Monday 7 December 2015

19.30 Start
21.30 End