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Seminars, conferences and online resources on psychotherapy and human relationships
Love Sick:
Working with people derailed by Eros

Saturday 11 March 2017

08.30 - 09:45   Social Dreaming Matrix led by Laurie Slade

"An opportunity to share your dreams from the night before in a facilitated group setting."
09.30   Registration and coffee
10.00   Janice Hiller

The neurobiology of falling in - love and intimate relationships
Intense romantic attraction, or falling in-love, is an experience that people frequently seek in our culture, but it may be a transient one that does not become a lasting emotional bond. Initial passion, which is thought to have evolved to facilitate the choice of a specific mating partner, can engender overwhelming and preoccupying feelings consisting of a range of complex emotions: exhilaration and excitement, as well as anxiety and despair. This presentation will describe research on the neurobiological underpinnings of such powerful feelings and explore what can happen to the couple dynamic over time, when novelty becomes familiarity.
11.15   Coffee
11.45   Dr Nicola Kimber-Rogal

Love and Reciprocal Roles: a Cognitive Analytic Therapy approach
We learn to love as children, and Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT) uses the concept of reciprocal roles (parent and child-derived) to form the foundation of a schema which can be termed as Loving (parent) to Loved (child). The experience of deciding 'This is the one for me' in romantic relations will activate these basic reciprocal roles. If relationships have been 'loving to loved' in childhood, this forms a secure based from which the client can safely exhibit romantic love and will not turn to maladaptive reciprocal roles in order to escape unpleasant feelings. Conversely, if the client has felt unloved (be this from neglect, over-criticism or preoccupied parents), the core parent-to-child pain needs to be exposed, and the reciprocal roles procedures altered in therapy. We will look at how this can be achieved, with case examples.
13.00   Lunch (Included)
14:15   Jenny Riddell

Love through the ages: the life cycle of being in love
This paper will explore the nature of romantic love across the life cycle, as presented in couple psychotherapy when the original passion moves into other emotional states that require the couple to re-negotiate the meaning of their relationship. Clinical material will be explored in the context of psychoanalytic and attachment theories that illuminate the developmental course of love from idealisation to an understanding of the other as a separate and complex. The function that transference and counter transference play in couple work, between the couple and witnessed by the therapist, will be discussed. Illustrations from literature as well as disguised vignettes of casework will be offered as examples of love’s arc over time.
15.30   Tea
15:45   Dr Christopher Clulow

Reflections on love, narcissism and sexual fantasy
"… And when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself … the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other's sight, as I may say, even for a moment". (Plato's Symposium)

Freud described the condition of being 'in love' as a temporary psychosis, and subsequent psychoanalysts have compared it with borderline states of mind. Does developmental psychology help us understand this condition and the dimension of fantasy that can persist when there is an undying quest to locate one's 'other half'? This talk will explore the significance of narcissism and sexual fantasy for couple relationships from an attachment perspective and consider implications for therapeutic work.
17.00   End

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Self-funded: £130 (SOLD OUT)
Self-funded x 2: £200 (SOLD OUT)
Self-funded (with the online module The Applications of Attachment theory to Psychotheraoy): £280 (SOLD OUT)
Organisationally-funded: £200 (SOLD OUT)
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Certificates of attendance for 6 hours will be provided at the event

Tavistock Centre
120 Belsize Lane

08:30 - 09:45 Social Dreaming Matrix
09.30 Registration and coffee
10:00 Start
11:15 Coffee
13:00 Lunch
15:30 Tea
17:00 End